I won't say that he should have divorced her, but there's no fucking excuse, other than a thyroid condition (which she doesn't have) for weighing 300 fucking pounds...especially as a 5 foot-ish woman. One of every spouse's obligations is to care about their appearance and take care of themselves out of respect for their spouse, if nothing else. This is even more true if you're in the public eye.BSmack wrote:Yea, he should have done the moral thing and divorced her after she got fat.

He should have seen the fat potential in her face back when they were dating. He should have limited her to "practice girl" for this reason alone.
Chemo causes weight gain? You might want to submit an article to the New England Journal of Medicine on this topic, as I'm sure the medical community would love to be enlightened on this previously unknown symptom. :roll'em:Bsmack wrote:Should he say that before or after the chemo treatments?
There's plenty of ways to approach a spouse who gains weight and help to motivate them to lose the extra lbs. Although favored by most married T1B posters, screaming, "SoooWEEEE, you a fat fucking pig!!!" is not likely to yield positive results. Simply accepting a wife's weight gain and pretending to be happy is a total pussy way out. A little dialogue goes a long way.
While losing a child would totally crush any parent, quitting on life, laying in bed all day in the dark and drowning your sorrows in fried foods and pizza is not the answer. If my son were to die, god forbid, I'd give my wife a good month to mourn however she damn well pleased. But at some point, those who are alive have to move on. Were she to start to go Mrs Edwards on me I'd approach the topic gently, then about a week later try the "Wake up!" talk, and if none of that worked I'd take her to the doctor to get her put on anti-depressant meds. Watching someone completely let themselves go doesn't serve you, her or her long term health well.Terry in Crapchester wrote:In addition to the cancer, let's not forget that Elizabeth Edwards lost a son in a car accident when he was 16, then made the decision to undergo fertility treatment and bear more children in her late 40's/early 50's. Maybe, just maybe, those two facts have a little to do with her weight. Call it a hunch.
My OL had our son later in life and while it took her closer to a year to lose the weight, rather than the six months or so that it usually takes, she did it with my support. I was about 70/30 postive/negative(stern) and the balance seemed to work. I think a lot of guys (like Edwards) either lack the persuasive skill that it takes to have difficult conversations such as these, or are too spineless to bring it up in the first place.