Why be afraid now?Katy wrote:He most certainly threatened me when his panty pic was taken public. I remember laughing at him when he PM'd me and told me I'd pay for it and that he'd make my life hell. My response was simple: "What are you going to do to me, AP? Are you going to huff and puff and blow my house in?" Needless to say my lack of enthusiasm or fear ended up with me getting my personal info splashed all over shutyomouth's board.
He huffed, he puffed, you shrugged your shoulders. You told him to, he took you up on it, that's equal ... even if it wasn't the reaction you expected. Someone hurt him, so obviously he hurt the person it would be easiest to strike out at. I don't know how he got all that information on you. I don't know if someone sent it to him. I don't remember if you told him those things. If you did tell him, that makes this a little deeper because it appears to me as an outsider that not only was he hurting the person it would be easiest to strike out at, he was hurting the person it hurt most to be hurt. That would be you, at least at that point in time, and that would go towards explaining how no matter how many times you or Chyna or anyone else would tell him that it was Chyna's fault, his fury was directed most towards you. But that's all supposition (and giving AP some small benefit of the doubt that there wasn't just pure opportunism at work).
What isn't supposition is that his life is the one which was plastered all over the boards first (in this instance), and I think that's getting lost in all of this. I don't know when you and Chyna's friendship dissolved, since apparently it was before this? I don't know why AP is still trying to make it appear like you two are still his friends after all this, either, though. I don't even know why Chyna would feel it appropriate to share those photos in the first place. What did AP do to Chyna? It does appears AP was engaging in a little tit for tat.
As I've said all along, it's an easy matter of telling someone you don't want certain types of photos. It should be just as easy a matter of discovering what was really said to make some guy believe that a female was ok with receiving those types of photos. This isn't a dating site, where unsolicited personal shots are par for the course. Why were those photos really given? Why were they received? To me, there's a real hurt that went down here, there's another subterfuge that went down, and it's not being discussed in all the easy marksmanship on a man lying about undergarments.
AP should not have plastered your personal one-on-one heart discussions all over the board as payback for the shredding of his own heart. That was wrong, not least because the two had zero to do with one another. AP's photos should not have been plastered all over the board. That was the other wrong.
As for shutyomouth's board, the url links never work for me, so I assume the moderators here have either filtered it or hostboard itself has. I did visit once, a while ago. It looked like the work of one or two people pretending to be a couple dozen people each. It was an imitation of Rootbeer and Broken Staple's work in multiple personality trolling. The problem was that the majority of the trolls had the same personality, the same motives, even when 'fighting'. The real problem for myself is that I didn't go in expecting to see lots of new people, so I was more skeptical from the onset about what was going on there. In a different mindset, I'd have been immersed more in it.
Instead of saying of AP that he's a creep, and creepy, or fighting with him, I think you need to directly disabuse him of the notion that you two are still friends in spite of all this. Tell him in no uncertain terms, tell him publically. If you are erasing pms from him as soon as they appear in your box, good. If you are not, bad. If you respond to those pms, worse. Continuing this -- continually bringing this up -- makes it appear that you do want something with him, even if it's of the negative variety. Do you?
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