Since you brought this up, I'm loading up the smack arsenals as well but I really don't care either.Katy wrote:I realize that by posting what I'm about to post, I will be stocking your arsenals with smack fodder for the next 10 plus years.... But since I don't give a fuck, here goes:
I am divorced. Twice. Surprised? Probably not.
The first time I got married, I was 20. We divorced when my son was 13 months old. We divorced mainly because we weren't compatible and we thought it would be easier on our child to be apart rather than having him see us fight all of the time. I don't agree with people who "stay" together for the children. That often does more harm than good. My parents stayed together and probably shouldn't have. My parents are two of the most miserable people because they don't live separate lives. They're of the belief that divorce is wrong and that counseling is the only option.
The second time I got married, I was 27. We had two children together. I divorced husband number 2 because he was physically abusive and I didn't want that around my children. He's not in their lives and I'm glad of it.
Props to those of you who are happily married. Some of us aren't/weren't so lucky.
I have never been divorced -- yet. My wife, however, had a previous marriage that ended in divorce. Her first husband used to like to beat the crap out of her, sometimes to the point of putting her in the hospital.
I can't honestly say, however, that the subject of divorce has never come up. Matter of fact, it has -- on more than one occasion. Remember what I said about the effect of a crisis on marriage earlier? I said that from personal experience. We're dealing with an ongoing health crisis involving our son that isn't likely to resolve itself anytime soon. In our case, it's torn us apart. Maybe it's on us for allowing that to happen, but that's also a lot more than most people have to deal with in the course of a marriage.
