Mother's day is coming ....

Jobocky · Post by **Jobocky** » Mon May 08, 2006 1:15 pm

I need ideas !!!

I hate this whole present buying racket. What do you get for your wife and mother of 2? What do you get for 2 small kids to give :x

BSmack · Post by **BSmack** » Mon May 08, 2006 1:19 pm

Jobocky wrote:I need ideas !!!

I hate this whole present buying racket. What do you get for your wife and mother of 2?

Whatever she wants.

What do you get for 2 small kids to give :x

Macaroni, glue and construction paper. Have them spell "I love you mommy".

Goober McTuber · Post by **Goober McTuber** » Mon May 08, 2006 1:35 pm

Nothing. She’s my wife, not my mother.

Cicero · Post by **Cicero** » Mon May 08, 2006 1:40 pm

Goober McTuber wrote:Nothing. She’s my wife, not my mother.

You sound like my dad. Always used to crack me up.

tough love · Post by **tough love** » Mon May 08, 2006 2:14 pm

Jobocky Asks:
I hate this whole present buying racket. What do you get for your wife and mother of 2?

My wife gets a time out from being a mother.
Whatever she chooses that to be within reason.

However; while you were at work friday nite, your wife did mention that a new husband would be perfect.

Azingaringaroo

Wolfman · Post by **Wolfman** » Mon May 08, 2006 2:14 pm

I take MrsO out for dinner.
Then again--Sunday hasn't been a
cook at home day for years now !!

jtr · Post by **jtr** » Mon May 08, 2006 4:16 pm

try getting her something from http://www.bellissimo1.com/

OCmike · Post by **OCmike** » Mon May 08, 2006 6:46 pm

Mother's day isn't a birthday. Go with the card and flowers. Also, better to go with 2 dozen carnations of varying colors than 1 dozen roses. Roses are for suckers.

Goober McTuber · Post by **Goober McTuber** » Mon May 08, 2006 6:55 pm

OCmike wrote:Mother's day isn't a birthday. Go with the card and flowers. Also, better to go with 2 dozen carnations of varying colors than 1 dozen roses. Roses are for suckers.

Exactly. Definitely go with the roses.

Screw_Michigan · Post by **Screw_Michigan** » Tue May 09, 2006 5:07 am

i'm not a tejas fan but i love burnt orange roses. buy just a few, those things are $$$.

chargerfan · Post by **chargerfan** » Tue May 09, 2006 5:32 am

Taking the wife to Vegas this weekend. Gonna stay at the Paris Hotel. Been about 5 years since the last trip. I have a buddy of mine getting married this Saturday in Vegas and decided to stay till Monday.

War killing 2 birds with 1 stone

SunCoastSooner · Post by **SunCoastSooner** » Tue May 09, 2006 1:26 pm

My wife has to work on Mother's day. She has a weekend job that she put in her notice for yesterday because school has started back up and she doesn't want to be gone 7 days a week and we don't need the money.

Anyways Jewelry... you can never go wrong with jewelry. This is my wife's first Mother's day where she is really a mother. I mean last year she was pregnant but we weren't really parents yet. My wife was really upset for awhile because she didn't think she would ever get her figure back, typical first time mom stuff. Because of this a couple of months ago I had already decided that I was going to go all out for her first mother's day.

Since she has to work Sunday into the evenning we are going to celebrate mother's day tomarrow together. She has class at 9am tomarrow so she'll have to be out of the door by atleast 6am (3 hour drive to FSU) and I am going to have to hit the ground running. First off I am getting my daughter bathed and put in the cutest little summer dress that my wife adores with a little pink bow on her head (yeah I know ghey but it will put a smile on her face). Next it is off to Fort Walton where there is a little knick knack shop on the Old Miracle Strip (Coach and Four's) where I can pick some candles and an assortment of home made fudges that she likes for dinner and desert. After that I am going to head by my father's house and pick up some gifts I have had stashed over there; my wife is a Tinkerbell nutcase so I got her a gold necklace with a Tinkerbell pendant or whatever they are called dangling from it, a watch with Tinkerbell sitting in coy stance that plays it's a small world, and a set of diamond ear rings that set me back a small fortune. On the way back I am going to take the long route down Hwy 98 instead of jumping the bay on the Mid Bay Bridge so that I can swing by Sexton's Seafood market and pick of some fresh shrimp and whatever other good catch they have for the day (I am a damn fine cook). At around 2pm my wife should be home and flowers being delivered at around 3pm with a gift card and appointment for a spa in Navarre. I know the owner of the shop ( i have appraised for him atleast once a year for the last three) and he assures me that if the flowers and card aren't there by 3:05 pm a driver is getting fired. :D Our freind is going to swing by and take her to a movie and the mall for a bit under the guise that she wants to go do some baby and kid shopping which always works (The National Past time for women... spending our money ;) ). This will allow me enough time to get home get the living/dinning room set up and dinner rocked out. After that it is all wine and dine with hopefully a little fun after the wee one has laid her head down.

I know it sounds pretty gay on a smack board so I fully expect to be lit up but my wife and daughter are my world and I make it a point to make sure they know just how much they mean to me at every oppertunity.

A.C. Crut · Post by **A.C. Crut** » Tue May 09, 2006 2:03 pm

^^^ RACK!

Neely8 · Post by **Neely8** » Tue May 09, 2006 2:41 pm

Sudden Sam wrote:Good for you, SCS.:)

You folks need to see your mom as much as you can...do everything you can for her...treat her like a goddess.

You won't believe the hole in your life when she's gone.

It sucks.

Unless you just can't stand her...

I second that. No parents left at all. It sucks and doubly so around holidays or special days like this.

It will be a cold day in hell before I buy my ex-wife ANYTHING even if it is from my son......

SunCoastSooner · Post by **SunCoastSooner** » Tue May 09, 2006 2:52 pm

Sudden Sam wrote:You folks need to see your mom as much as you can...do everything you can for her...treat her like a goddess.

You won't believe the hole in your life when she's gone.

It sucks.

I can count on my hand how many times I have seen my mother since I was seven and most of them are in the last few years since I got married. I tend to focus on Father's day since he actualy was a real part of my life and mother's day is another day to focus on the main mother in my life... the mother of my daughter.

Neely8 · Post by **Neely8** » Tue May 09, 2006 2:53 pm

Sudden Sam wrote:
Neely8 wrote:
I second that. No parents left at all. It sucks and doubly so around holidays or special days like this.

It will be a cold day in hell before I buy my ex-wife ANYTHING even if it is from my son......
It is strange, isn't it? No parents. Weird.

I used to always make sure my kids got something for their mom's b'day and Mother's Day and Xmas. Not for the last 5 or so years, though. The bitchin' and lyin' never ceases.

Very strange. Xmas and Thanksgiving suck big time. Birthdays aren't exactly a blast either. Kinda sucks to not get that call from your parents wishing you a happy b-day.

I loathe my ex wife. I love my son. He gets anything he wants. She gets her child support every month and thats it.......

Roofer · Post by **Roofer** » Tue May 09, 2006 10:08 pm

Taking my Mom to breakfast Sunday morning. Going to a place my brother found out about. Arthur's in Orange (if any SoCal'ers know about this place, let me hear about it). The thing is, my brother lives in Phoenix now, and my Mom won't know he's gonna be in town. I'm taking her to the restaurant, then my bro is gonna show up as a suprise. She'll be stoked.

Not sure what else I'll do.

For my ex, I'll have to get a card for her from the kids. We may not be married anymore, but she does a helluva job raising the kids with me. I won't ever let that go unappreciated.

RedHerring · Post by **RedHerring** » Wed May 10, 2006 12:00 am

SunCoastSooner · Post by **SunCoastSooner** » Wed May 10, 2006 9:26 pm

Update: Since I didn't get lit up for my gayness and even got a Rack I figured I'd let you know that it is half way through the planned events for the day, my wife skipped the movies and they went straight to the mall. The schedule got a little screwy. We both got home a little earlier than I anticipated, she almost caught me attching the ear rings to the living room fan with a string (I'm going to set her up for them to just fall infront of her when she flips the switch). Sexton's didn't have anything that I found overly interesting and that she liked as far as fresh catches that weren't going to bankrupt me so I just got a shit load of shrimp which she will be ecstatic over (I'm going to also have some lamb but my wife has strict policy of no cute animals for food). They skipped the movie and went straight to the shopping :? . I can only imagine how much damage the two of them can do with a whole three and half hours of shopping... especially in this community.

Other than the schedule being a bit screwy and my daughter already having grown out of her cute summer dress it has been going just as planned!!! :D

PSUFAN · Post by **PSUFAN** » Wed May 10, 2006 9:46 pm

my daughter already having grown out of her cute summer dress

*crotchpalm*

--DiS

Neely8 · Post by **Neely8** » Wed May 10, 2006 9:53 pm

Roofer wrote:Taking my Mom to breakfast Sunday morning. Going to a place my brother found out about. Arthur's in Orange (if any SoCal'ers know about this place, let me hear about it). The thing is, my brother lives in Phoenix now, and my Mom won't know he's gonna be in town. I'm taking her to the restaurant, then my bro is gonna show up as a suprise. She'll be stoked.

Not sure what else I'll do.

For my ex, I'll have to get a card for her from the kids. We may not be married anymore, but she does a helluva job raising the kids with me. I won't ever let that go unappreciated.

Ya know I have wondered this. I fucking LOATHE my ex wife. The thought of buying her anything makes me throw up in my mouth. My 4 year old makes things at school to give to her and I on Mother's and Father's day. Am I required to go beyond that and buy something for him to give to her? My Father's Day gift last year was 3 golf balls glued together to look like a bug. It had a tag that said happy fathers day on it. I loved it and will keep it forever but what are the rules here?

SunCoastSooner · Post by **SunCoastSooner** » Wed May 10, 2006 10:29 pm

Neely8 wrote:
Roofer wrote:Taking my Mom to breakfast Sunday morning. Going to a place my brother found out about. Arthur's in Orange (if any SoCal'ers know about this place, let me hear about it). The thing is, my brother lives in Phoenix now, and my Mom won't know he's gonna be in town. I'm taking her to the restaurant, then my bro is gonna show up as a suprise. She'll be stoked.

Not sure what else I'll do.

For my ex, I'll have to get a card for her from the kids. We may not be married anymore, but she does a helluva job raising the kids with me. I won't ever let that go unappreciated.
Ya know I have wondered this. I fucking LOATHE my ex wife. The thought of buying her anything makes me throw up in my mouth. My 4 year old makes things at school to give to her and I on Mother's and Father's day. Am I required to go beyond that and buy something for him to give to her? My Father's Day gift last year was 3 golf balls glued together to look like a bug. It had a tag that said happy fathers day on it. I loved it and will keep it forever but what are the rules here?

Based on my childhood... you drive by and scream obsenities. :?

Derron · Post by **Derron** » Wed May 10, 2006 11:05 pm

For my ex, I'll have to get a card for her from the kids. We may not be married anymore, but she does a helluva job raising the kids with me. I won't ever let that go unappreciated.

Rack that and you.

My ex and I have had our ups and downs, but we always stayed friends for the kids, and we did a great job of rasing them. 23 yo daughter, college degree, career, and 2 boys in the Marine Corps.

The kids are all grown and on their own, but we still dinner and party together when the boys are home, because they want every one together for those occasions, so we have the family's, step bros and sisters, cousins and exs. We get along fine.

My ex and I could not stay married, but she is a great mother and we are happy with the kids and our individual lives. She gets a boquet of flowers and card every year from me. My wife is totally down with it. She does not get shit or ever has from her scum bag ex, but he had nothing to do with the kids for about 17 years either. Fuck him, he lost out.

Derron · Post by **Derron** » Wed May 10, 2006 11:10 pm

I fucking LOATHE my ex wife.

Fuck you. Suck it up our your kid will turn out like you.

Am I required to go beyond that and buy something for him to give to her?

Reach down in your pants and do a nut check you dickhead.

Being a parent means doing things sometimes that YOU may not like, but if you want to teach the young man how to properly treat women, which is probably a stretch for you, then yes you do.

Teach him how to appreciate his mother. Put your fucking act aside and try to break the cycle here. It's not about you, its about basic decencey here.

Rack her for divorcing your ass.

SunCoastSooner · Post by **SunCoastSooner** » Thu May 11, 2006 12:07 am

I knew something had to fuck up, things were going to damn much like planned. :(

My wife got called into an employee meeting. WTF, she put in her notice on Monday and since three people have put in theirs as well. Damn place is scarmbling begging for people to stay now. Not like it is going to affect my wife she didn't quit because of the fucked up enviroment she has to work in she quit because of school and occasionaly wanting to see our daughter instead of being gone for 10+ ours every damn day of the week.

What are they gonna do fire her? Why'd I have to marry such an honest hard working women.

Neely8 · Post by **Neely8** » Thu May 11, 2006 3:10 am

Derron wrote:
I fucking LOATHE my ex wife.
Fuck you. Suck it up our your kid will turn out like you.

Am I required to go beyond that and buy something for him to give to her?
Reach down in your pants and do a nut check you dickhead.

Being a parent means doing things sometimes that YOU may not like, but if you want to teach the young man how to properly treat women, which is probably a stretch for you, then yes you do.

Teach him how to appreciate his mother. Put your fucking act aside and try to break the cycle here. It's not about you, its about basic decencey here.

Rack her for divorcing your ass.

My ex and I get along when it comes to my son. I say nothing but nice things about his mother to him. My ex essentially used me to have a child. Now I get to pay 600 a month in child support. Apparently I am the loser yet she is 39 and living in her parents basement. I asked her for more time with him recently and it was denied. Rather then playing it nice she would rather go back to court. Thats fine.

It's nice that you have such a great relationship with yours. Maybe when my son is older that will be the case for us. As it is he is only 4 so it is pretty fresh. Who knows. I asked for simple advice and instead you judge me knowing nothing about our situation. A simple yes you should would have been fine.

Derron · Post by **Derron** » Thu May 11, 2006 2:31 pm

I asked for simple advice and instead you judge me knowing nothing about our situation. A simple yes you should would have been fine.

I replied based upon what you post.

Relationship dynamics change all the time. In the early stages of divorce and child custody issues, a lot comes to the surface. Parents often let their feelings really come i the way as to what is best for the child.

My ex and I had the usual custody arrangments but the kids spent a lot more time in our family than the specified amount. After they reached about 6 or so, they decided how much time to spend and it was always more than the divorce said. Over time your son will appreciate the time you spend with him, and will want to spend more.

2 of them lived with me off and on over the years, I never said shit and just kept paying the child support which was $ 1,000 a month at the end.

Your son will pick up and your true feelings even though you may not verbilize them . It is very important that you remain a constant and steady influence in his life. So you and the ex got divorced, half the fucking world does that now. As time goes on, you will learn to lose the attitudes and look at what is best for the boy. Even if your ex can't do it, you should try.

My ex and I have been divorced 18 years. We raised these kids and sat together holding hands at our sons Marine Corp graduations.

She has her life and I have mine, but those paths will cross forever as far as the kids are concerned. My daughter has such a sense of family that she would not allow ANY type of conflicts or disagreements between family or extended family to cloud any relationship dynamics. That tells me we did something right.

Neely8 · Post by **Neely8** » Thu May 11, 2006 4:12 pm

Derron wrote:
I asked for simple advice and instead you judge me knowing nothing about our situation. A simple yes you should would have been fine.
I replied based upon what you post.

Relationship dynamics change all the time. In the early stages of divorce and child custody issues, a lot comes to the surface. Parents often let their feelings really come i the way as to what is best for the child.

My ex and I had the usual custody arrangments but the kids spent a lot more time in our family than the specified amount. After they reached about 6 or so, they decided how much time to spend and it was always more than the divorce said. Over time your son will appreciate the time you spend with him, and will want to spend more.

2 of them lived with me off and on over the years, I never said shit and just kept paying the child support which was $ 1,000 a month at the end.

Your son will pick up and your true feelings even though you may not verbilize them . It is very important that you remain a constant and steady influence in his life. So you and the ex got divorced, half the fucking world does that now. As time goes on, you will learn to lose the attitudes and look at what is best for the boy. Even if your ex can't do it, you should try.

My ex and I have been divorced 18 years. We raised these kids and sat together holding hands at our sons Marine Corp graduations.

She has her life and I have mine, but those paths will cross forever as far as the kids are concerned. My daughter has such a sense of family that she would not allow ANY type of conflicts or disagreements between family or extended family to cloud any relationship dynamics. That tells me we did something right.

As a child of divorce I always swore I would never get divorced myself. I always figured that anything could be worked out. I honestly never saw what happened coming. Got married, bought the house, had my son, and then she bolted. Made up some lame excuse. Obviously her biological clock was ticking so once she got the kid she was gone. I am still bitter about it. Im sure that will change with time.

My son hears nothing but good things from me about his mother. I always tell him to love her and listen to what she tells him. I would never undermine her as I would hope that she doesn't with me.

I am taking her back to court for more time. If we can't work it out then we will do it the harder/more expensive way. She likes to run the show and so therefore I have to get it in writing. So be it.

I guess the problem I have is actually doing something nice for her. I guess I could be the bigger person. Just hard after what she is/has put me through.

Derron · Post by **Derron** » Thu May 11, 2006 5:20 pm

I guess the problem I have is actually doing something nice for her.

Your not doing it for her. Your doing it for your son, to show him this is how you treat women and your mother correctly. Your teaching him the ways of life. Just because she recieves the gesture don't mean shit. That is totally secondary to what you are doing.

I am still bitter about it. Im sure that will change with time.

Natural feelings. Don't ignore yourself in this. Get professsional counseling and help. I waited almost 11 years, carry the shit and trying to deal with it in my own way. Did not work. I hit a fucking wall in 1997 with some kid issues, and went off the deep end emotionally. Major fucking depression over all that and life in general. Almost ate a bullet. My wife hauled my ass to the loony bin for a week, got me on meds and it took 6 years to get out of that hole.

Never going back. Off the meds, but one bad situation from being there again.

Just hard after what she is/has put me through.

See and read above posting again. This is going to be your life , in varying and modified stages for the next 18 years at least, and then the dynamics change a bit. You HAVE to learn how to deal with it over time, or it will fuck you up. Been there, done that, not going back.

Neely8 · Post by **Neely8** » Thu May 11, 2006 6:53 pm

Derron wrote:
I guess the problem I have is actually doing something nice for her.
Your not doing it for her. Your doing it for your son, to show him this is how you treat women and your mother correctly. Your teaching him the ways of life. Just because she recieves the gesture don't mean shit. That is totally secondary to what you are doing.

I am still bitter about it. Im sure that will change with time.
Natural feelings. Don't ignore yourself in this. Get professsional counseling and help. I waited almost 11 years, carry the shit and trying to deal with it in my own way. Did not work. I hit a fucking wall in 1997 with some kid issues, and went off the deep end emotionally. Major fucking depression over all that and life in general. Almost ate a bullet. My wife hauled my ass to the loony bin for a week, got me on meds and it took 6 years to get out of that hole.

Never going back. Off the meds, but one bad situation from being there again.

Just hard after what she is/has put me through.
See and read above posting again. This is going to be your life , in varying and modified stages for the next 18 years at least, and then the dynamics change a bit. You HAVE to learn how to deal with it over time, or it will fuck you up. Been there, done that, not going back.

I actually did go to counseling. My divorce was just one part of the reason. I lost both parents during this time too so I was SEVERELY screwy. Was on Effexor for a while but finally decided I was ok. Things have gotten better. Honestly my relationship and feelings about my ex have cooled too.

I think I asked mainly because the chick im dating now said NO WAY. She has a pretty good head on her shoulders too. Not bitter towards my ex. Has a great relationship with my son and so forth. For her to say no when she has no ill will towards my ex got me confused.....

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