Why does it have to be strange?

[Katy]

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[SunCoastSooner]

Ok... I'm going to babble, ramble, and do what I do best, but here goes:

My question is: Do you think it's weird that I'm still friends with an ex? Have you been able to remain friendly with someone you've had a relationship with?

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I don't know how the sibling thing goes because the only sibling I am close with is my youngest sister and that is more of a parental/child relationship since I am raising her.

As far as exes though... I'm still friends with most of my exes with the exception of my ex-wife and that is by her choice not mine...I don't need the typical spiel on this forum about how should hate her from those who know the back story from our marriage/divorce, custody fight, and her timing, I just don't hate her. The woman right before my ex-wife I was engaged to and we are now best of friends years later probably even closer than the last two years of our intimate relationship.

The British girl that I dated and I are pretty close as well. When her parents come over I still have dinner with them at least once a trip; her father had even invited me out to have some cocktails and dinner one night, then plans got changed so he suggested I come to dinner with them and then we would go have some man time so we could bullshit about our soccer clubs (I even kind of follow Ipswich in the English Championship League because of him now and he gets me some of the inside dirt on Rangers that I wouldn't probably hear on this side of the pond). My ex brought the guy she had started seeing after we stopped seeing each other in that manner. It was a little awkward but much more so for him than it was me because her father immediately didn't care for him. Her dad is a pretty damn clean cut guy who holds the civilian equivalent rank of a two star general with NATO, I'm a pretty clean cut, well dressed, educated person with a business that at least isn't going belly up, a respectable family (for the most part). Then there is the new boyfriend (at the time) who doesn't get a hair cut but maybe twice a year and bounces back and forth between being a failing 31 year old musician and a stock boy at Target. I didn't really get along with him either because when she first introduced me to him he found out I knew the owner and manager of a pretty popular club in the area and wanted me to drop his bands name to them because they had been trying to get booked there for two years (he hadn't been booked and gets stuck playing Coasters because they pretty well suck). Also one of my best friends is a real estate broker but the lead vocalist in a band that is pretty popular out here and plays the club he wanted to get booked at least three times a year; fills in for another band out of Atlanta there at least one night of their week when they are down. Dude got drunk and embarrassed himself... I felt pretty bad for my ex because we are still friends and you could see the shame in her eyes and she was embarrassed for him and herself for bringing him. I would have declined the invitation if I had known my ex had planned on bringing him but I couldn't get a hold of her to clear things and I wasn't just going to be a dick and turn down her dad because damn it I like the guy in his own right without her in the equation. We've talked about seeing each other again a few times but I know she can't deal with my ex with the baby mama drama and isn't very keen on me and my ex-fiance being pretty tight as well. Still hang out and go out and we enjoy each others company.

There are a lot of other girls who I have been on a date or two with and decided it wasn't for me that I am still able to hang out with and have a good time as well.

Like I said outside of just one person, and that being of her own choice, I am still friends with most of the girls I have dated whether it be casually or seriously.

I ramble as well obviously... Gawd I am bored here alone!

[Katy]

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[Katy]

Have you been able to remain friendly with someone you've had a relationship with?

Unfortunately, no. I generally blame the restraining orders.

[Wolfman]

Guess I'm lucky when it comes to "relationships". There was only girl I was even remotely serious with before I met MrsO. We saw each other for almost three years. She wanted to get married and I didn't and that was that. A year later I met MrsO and after seeing her for about 2 months we got married. That was over 46 years ago. Best choice I ever made for sure.

[SunCoastSooner]

Two months? Holy Tebow. Talk about rolling the dice and hitting paydirt.

It was a different era back then. Your closest neighbor was a days ride on horseback, no phones, large dowries from father's who needed the useless women off the land, messicans didn't build things they picked fruit, you could stone a ho for talking back... those were the days, the days when men were men and women could cook something that didn't come in a box. My great grandfather used to speak fondly of those days when I was a wee lad.